Groom’s Role in Wedding Planning

Traditionally all wedding responsibilities have fallen on the shoulders of the beaming bride.  Sometimes the bride has a wedding planner that helps her make decisions and insures that all goes smoothly.  Historically the groom’s single responsibility has been to show up at the wedding on time in his tuxedo, as the wedding day is known as the “bride‘s day“.

Today’s grooms are taking a more active role in the wedding planning and supporting their soon to be brides.  Couple’s realize that a wedding marks the beginning of the rest of their lives together and see the wedding plans as a way to start off their relationship completely committed to each other.  Planning your wedding together as a couple, with or without the help of a wedding planner, can be a way of bringing the two of you closer on your big day.

If your fiancé seems hesitant to get involved in your big plans you should first ask him what areas of the wedding he is comfortable with planning.  Make sure you bring out the positive aspects of each job you suggest for him.  For example, if he decides to help you pick out your dream wedding cake he’ll get to sample many delicious cakes and frostings.  If your future husband helps you audition djs or bands he’ll have a say in what type of music is played at the reception.

To start off the list of tasks, below are typical responsibilities that are given to the groom:

• Organize his and his groomsmen’s attire.  Pick the color (with your input, of course), schedule the fitting,  and delegate someone to return the attire after the wedding
• Arrange transportation for the entire wedding party from the ceremony to the reception venue
• Plan the rehearsal dinner, which is traditionally incurred by the groom’s parents.
• Plan the details of on your honeymoon after you’ve chosen the venue.  This can include transportation to and from the airport, sightseeing tours or even romantic dinners.

It can be a win-win situation for both of you.  You get to spend quality time together, he gets involved in the decisions, it takes some of the stress off you, and he feels as if he is an active participant and not just a spectator at your wedding.

The role of the groom has certainly evolved in the areas of wedding planning for the better.  While your fiancé’s input in the wedding plans aren’t necessarily required, it will make the two of you feel closer as you plan to say to take the vows that will forever bring you closer.

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